The Adjustments of Marriage

 

One of the most controversial and most studied topics is marriage. There are thousands of books, posts, podcasts, studies and blog posts talking about what someone should or should not do. There is probably so much information and opinion that it is impossible to read, study, and learn it all. But what do we know? What is important about marriage? How can it become successful. One of the most important parts is the decision to get marriage. The engagement process and the first few months of marriage are some of the most crucial.

One thing that has become popular more recently is postponing getting married. Couples are waiting to get married later in life. One of the biggest reasons for this is individuals feel that it is best if they are3 financially stable before marriage and have good careers. Because of this they wait until there later twenties and starting their married life much later. As well because they are postponing marriage that also means they are postponing having kids as well. Most wait until they are married and having kids later on in life means two things usually. One of those being they have less kids than desired because they are simply too old. As well they are having kids in the house a lot later in life than usual. Most couples show that they have a desire to have multiple kids. Because they waited it makes it difficult to have kids and have to settle with a smaller family than they hoped and wanted. A lot of the time couples recognize and admit that they wish they had had more kids. Another big role in this from modern culture is to wait and enjoy marriage for a while before having kids. It is always good to wait and not rush things. But the culture nowadays is to wait and simply enjoy the time with your spouse before life gets  hectic. But waiting a couple years adds to the years they waited already, making it more difficult to have kids as well making the couples older when their kids leave the home.

To switch gears a little bit. There are lots of adjustments to be made during the first part of marriage. Most tv and movies makes it look glamorous and perfect. But, it is not exactly that way. It is not the hardest thing in the world but there will be things that people will have to adjust to. Because of adjustments it is best to talk to your spouse and try and figure out those adjustments ahead of time. Some of those adjustments might be who is going to do the laundry? Another big one is sharing everything. Another big adjustment is sharing a bed. For most individuals sleep in their own bed but when married they have to share one. Which might sound nice and exciting at first. But that once bed to yourself you have to share it. Meaning you might have to try and sleep through snoring, someone kicking you, Or even a loved one taking all of the blankets. That is often difficult for an individual and often leads to lack of sleep and frustration. All these you might have gone through or might. But with talking and compromising can be fixed and adjusted.

As we looked over the information there are a lot of different things that make marriage hard and a little bit of adjustment. Some of those things being putting off marriage, waiting to have kids and talking about the little things. These small things if talked about and looked at before or during a marriage can be small things that could go a long way to help both become happier with the relationship.