Recap

 

Throughout the last few weeks I have written about several different topics ranging from mental health to parenting. I hope that you were able to gain something from at least one of the many different blog posts That I did. I wanted to go over a few I found important and thought I should retouch one. Those three things are the importance of dating, parenting, and divorce. 

Dating is something that is important to do both before and during marriage. The two have many similarities and differences that make them unique. When dating before marriage the purpose is to find someone that you are both interested in and that could possibly be a future spouse. When dating it is important to find out about the person and what they really are like. So, plan dates that include lots of opportunities to talk and communicate. Some ideas of what not to do include things like the movies and attending events where you can not talk and get to know each other. The purpose is to be finding attributes in others that you both like and dislike. When married it is a little bit different. You are not trying to find attributes you like an dislike in them anymore. It is still important to focus on communication and talking with one another. No matter what building and solidifying that connection is extremely important. There is always something more to talk about tan do learn more about your spouse. It is also to plan fun dates for both before marriage and after. That does not mean it has to be super expensive either. But if you really want to spend lots of money on elaborate dates go for it but make sure the focus of the activity is to grow closer as a couple then showing off and spending money.

After marriage kids shortly come. For some that is not always the case but parenting as important thing for our community. There are thousands of studies and books written about the topic of parenting.  But with all this research and knowledge there is still not a perfect way to do it and is very difficult more often then naught. We have been able to identify some principles that make it easier in the long run. One of the biggest things to do is talk and communicate with your spouse on how you guys would like to raise kids is so important. It is important to do this before having kids, so you are on the same page and understanding later down the road. Of course, you cannot plan for everything, but it makes to easier to have some things planned and ready for. Another important principle is that every person is different, and each kid will need to be raised slightly different and that is ok.

              Something that is extremely difficult for any person to go through is divorce. There are many different perspectives on this and like parenting there is no perfect way. Every situation is different and requires different solutions. Of course, I always recommend if it can be fixed do what it takes ot fix it and work together to fix what needs fixing. Another thing that is important to remember and realize is that everyone has disagreements, and an argument will happen at one point during a marriage its how you try and fox it that matters most. Of course, if it is serious enough there are times where divorce is ok and painful but always strive to be the better person and do not make it uglier and harder than it has to be.