Parenting

 

When dating someone one of the frequent questions asked is when are you going ot get marries. After some time the two of you finally decide to get married and it is pretty exciting. But it seems like the day of the marriage everybody switches from when are you two getting married to when are two going to have kids. The questions never asked. But the best thing to do is take your time and wait until you are both ready to have kids. Some choose to have kids quickly and others decide to wait. There are also those cases where kids come faster than expected. Whatever the case or scenario kids are a huge blessing and that is where parenting begins. Hopefully the couple has talked about parenting and the different techniques that come with that. It is recommended that the couple talks in detail all the different ways they plan on and what they think is best. Every family is raised differently and each person has there opinion on the perfect way of raising a child. The sad thing is there is no perfect or exact way to raise a child. SO that makes ot a little more difficult. What makes it even more difficult is that every child is difficult so even a way that worked on one child will not always work on another. There are principles that we have discovered that in general work. One of those being is discipline. Every single person has a different opinion and definition of discipline. What has been learned that discipline is good and helps create boundaries that children can learn and understand what is and is not allowed. Some kids require more than others which is completely normal. What we learned is that those that are disciplined struggle the most. There is a new philosophy to let kids decide everything and to treat them as special little children and that they never do anything wrong. This philosophy has raised kids not realizing that there is consequences for actions which creates trials and struggle later on in life. Every action we do has a consequence for either good or bad. That depends on the choice of course and a lot of other things as well. But in reality, kids being coddled there whole life is not good and usually ends up being more worse than good in the end. I recommend talking about the different ways to help navigate and discipline kids in their actions. On the other side a very important part of raising a kid is praise. Being disciplined is not the answer for everything. When a child does something good or positive it is important to praise the child for the good job they did. This is important because children recognize this praise and will hunger for it and realize that they want more of that in there life after being praised. It is a simple way of showing what is good and what is bad. Inn the end raising children is not easy and can be difficult. But there is so much joy and learning that comes from it. Some ways to make it easier and not so difficult is by talking about it before hand and making a small plan of what to do before hand. Making this small plan before hand can help figure out what is best and what you and your spouse want to do. Having this plan can help create a lot less stress in the future. It is hard to raise kids when one parent tries to raise you one way and the other parent another way. Doing this will cause a lot of arguments and end up not as good as you want it to be.